The whole process is exhausting. I care about how he feels, but at the same time I don't feel like getting into a energy draining discussion that we've had several times over in our short time of being married (less than six months). No matter how many times we have the discussion I will NEVER agree with him on my "taking advantage of him", "not respecting him", or "not contributing as much as he does". Those accusations INFURIATE me, so instead of talking about them he'll give me the silent treatment from the moment he comes home until the time he goes to bed unless I prod it out of him.
First of all, I don't know he can go to bed in a good mood then wake up being frustrated at me. What in the world did I do in the 8 hours I was sleeping at night?
Secondly, if he has an issue with me or something I did he needs to talk about it instead of giving me the silent treatment.
Thirdly, I shouldn't have to prod my husband into telling me what is wrong only to have him attack me with invalid accusations, which I think are rooted in his insecurity of his previous wife having cheated on him after 6 months of marriage (which he did nothing to deserve by the way).
While I understand how such an experience can leave a person leary and wondering if someone is going to take advantage of them again, I don't understand pushing away someone who loves you by attacking the with accusations that were only true with their previous relationship.
I'm exhausted by the process, especially when it bears it's ugly head at the end of a long work day. I want to relax at the end of the day and come home to enjoy time spent with my husband. Knowing that I'll get to come home to silent treatment or an unnecessary argument is enough to not make me WANT to come home at the end of the work day.
I'm exhausted by the process, especially when it bears it's ugly head at the end of a long work day. I want to relax at the end of the day and come home to enjoy time spent with my husband. Knowing that I'll get to come home to silent treatment or an unnecessary argument is enough to not make me WANT to come home at the end of the work day.
I cleaned the floors in the house... no comment from him.
I trimmed up the plant he's been wanting trimmed... no comment from him.
I trimmed up the plant he's been wanting trimmed... no comment from him.
I offered to make spagehetti - he asked that it be baked spagehetti - I did it...No comment from him.
He asked for a drink refill - I did it...no comment from him.
He asked for a drink refill - I did it...no comment from him.
I offered to pack his lunch for work tomorrow - he said 'no'...I packed it anyway because I know he'll want it later.
I took his dishes to the kitchen, cleaned the kitchen/dishes...no comment from him.
I've let the dog in/out all evening...no comment from him.
Really? Am I THAT terrible that his silent treatment won't even allow a "Thank You" to escape his lips?
The only conversation I've had with him this evening was when he came back from the bathroom and said, "You shouldn't throw toilet paper on the floor."
The only conversation I've had with him this evening was when he came back from the bathroom and said, "You shouldn't throw toilet paper on the floor."
I said, "I didn't throw toilet paper on the floor."
He said, "Yes you did."
I said, "You REALLY think I would throw toilet paper on the floor? When do I EVER do that?"
He finally shut up about it.
I'll just chalk it up to 'Male PMS' and leave him to his own devices for the evening. I'll read my book and let him stew about whatever is irking him. Then I'll go to bed and start a new day tomorrow. Hopefully whatever funk he is in will be out of his system by tomorrow, otherwise, God help him if I blow my lid. ;-)
I'll just chalk it up to 'Male PMS' and leave him to his own devices for the evening. I'll read my book and let him stew about whatever is irking him. Then I'll go to bed and start a new day tomorrow. Hopefully whatever funk he is in will be out of his system by tomorrow, otherwise, God help him if I blow my lid. ;-)